Spiritual teacher Wayne Dyer once said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Your perception is reality because of the way your perception shapes your choices and actions, which have predictable results.
If you believe that money is evil, you will consciously and unconsciously make decisions that guarantee you will never have money, because you don’t want to become evil.
If you believe that you can’t make money as an artist, you will consciously and unconsciously make choices that ensure you never put your art out there and ask money for it.
If you believe that you are the best of the best coach and people will flock to you for advice, then you will consciously and unconsciously take action to draw an adoring audience to you.
The takeaway is that you take actions based on how you see the world. Some of these choices and actions are deliberate, and some are not.
That’s why, if you’re going to make any meaningful change in your life, you have to do it from inside-out. Uplevel your mindset first… and your choices and results will follow.
There are a few great ways to change your perception of a situation:
#1. Look back.
Observe yourself as you are now from the perspective of “already done.” That means, imagine yourself as already having achieved what you want… it’s like pausing the movie at the point where the hero triumphs, and then playing back the movie. You have no doubt in your mind that you can achieve your objective because, well, here you are. It is done. You’re just replaying the movie because you like the way it ends.
#2. Appreciate what you have.
Stop focusing on what is wrong and missing, and bring your attention to appreciation of what is good and what you have.
Even if it’s something tiny like that first sip of coffee when everything around you is exploding. Wow, that coffee is amazing…
I’m so grateful for this… it can make a world of difference in your attitude as you face the day.
#3. Appreciate yourself.
Recognize and acknowledge your good qualities, and how far you have already come.
It’s easy to make negative comparisons with people who “have it all” but unless you give yourself some credit for your own skills, knowledge, talents and traits, you will always find reasons to feel inadequate – and again, your conscious and unconscious choices will follow!
#4. Mind your chatter.
Pay closer attention to your dominant automatic thoughts. If you’re paying attention, you will notice the same 4-7 topics within your internal narrative like subjects of worry, or something you’re looking forward to. If you notice that most of your thought habits tend to be negative, do what you can to uplift yourself. You can change your dominant thoughts by using positive affirmations and visualizing the ideal situation. If you’re willing to put in the effort, this will have positive results in your outlook, thought habits, and therefore you conscious and unconscious choices and actions.